It’s an annual tradition. Following the big splurge when we’re all encouraged to demonstrate our love through spending more money on someone than we can afford, on something they probably don’t need anyway, we get forced into deciding which of the “tyrannical should’s” we’re going to let control our life for the following year.
It’s not about choice. It’s not about personal decisions to improve. It’s about peer pressure. Is it any wonder that most resolutions don’t last?
I should say, frankly, now, that I used to do it myself a few years ago. It’s too easy, when the first question everyone asks after the party finally winds down is about what your resolution is – how you’re going to be a better person this year than you were last.
These days, I’m tempted to reply that I don’t have any resolutions because I’m already the best I can be – just to watch the reaction.
Bottom line: that is the assumption you buy into when you make resolutions. It’s putting yourself down, focusing on what you’re not doing right.
Again, I ask you – is it any wonder they usually don’t last?
Here’s a radical idea: turn this year’s resolution around. Instead of finding things you feel you “should” or “shouldn’t” do – put some effort into finding the things you are already good at. Build a positive picture about yourself. How much easier must it be to run the 4 minute mile when you KNOW you only need to improve by 3 seconds? And how much more sensible a resolution that is, building on that strength, than one, for example, to take up pole vaulting! (And much more likely to be kept, too.)
Find your strengths, then push them just that little bit further, and enjoy the feeling of stretching yourself, without the usual guilt of failing to do something that didn’t come from you in the first place.
Oh, I nearly forgot. In some cases, no resolution is better than one that’s likely to fail. If you’re not the kind who feels the need to use the New Year as an excuse to make changes, whether it’s because you’re changing all the time anyway, or because you are content with who you are, then don’t buy into it. If someone asks, tell them you’ve resolved not to make any resolutions this year, and relax.
After all, it’s YOUR life!
Best Wishes
Crystal
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